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How much does physical attractiveness matter to you when deciding to play with someone or a couple? |
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He prefers personality over looks, she is shallow when it comes to looks..... |
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Looks for me are not an absolute necessity....but I think for everyone to some degree its something that is a very selective process and we have personal prerequisites before playing. I do not think I could do someone if I had to look at a predominant flaw. For instance, I am a very eye contact oriented and if a person is cross-eyed I may have a difficult time in dealing with it. However, if a blindfold was placed on it gets rid of that automatic sense of awareness.
Besides, we are all attracted to various qualities about someone...I go more on personality as Gary said....anything else CAN be overcome most times if a person has a great 'tude!
Sharon
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Personality and attitude over looks, any day. Age, race, color and to date, body size, have not been a deciding factor. If we can't talk, before, during and after, what is the point?
For those that think their Gods gift, their doing you a favor or treat you like your some kind of meat, take a hike!
I like real people. Looks wont change that.
B Bopp |
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You sound like Us.... I'm the one who will find the flaws, Todd has the ability to overlook them! I dun think it's so much being "shallow" I just over analyze too much and know I've missed out sometimes.
Sharon |
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Funny you mentioned that about cocky people.
So awhile back we hear a lot about this local club that's 30 mins from the city. And everyone is awed! That the food is awesome, that it is runned once a mth out of a mansion, anyway, everyone is soo excited..........
Took us awhile but we finally got there. And were completely disappointed with the music, the awesome food was frozen oedeurves you buy at your local Walmart Supercenter, the crowd was all CEO's wanna be's but not there yet. We seriously asked ourselves why nobody told some of those couples that their man were gay. It was a cold night, just at the frost level, and the heat was off, we were freezing dressed in club clothes, so we asked if they have a hot drink - coffee/tea and there wasn't any, we just didn't believe that in the entire house there wasn't anything to whip a hot drink with - tea/coffee/chocolate/microwaved orange juice and felt treated like a door fee ......The mansion wasn't the playboy one either, just a regular 3000sq ft home.
A few days later online, someone again went on the cheering wagon about the "mansion", the food and the crowd and when we didn't join in the cheering and gave them our 2 cents we got crucified. However, both Lu and I been working in the service industry more than half of our lives, and we've seen some good service in our days. These guys just looked out for their friends while everyone else was just there to pay the door fee.
Somehow I get a feeling you won't like it there either tho, too many bitches and cocky people. We did found a cpl we liked but by that time we were no longer in any mood ........
It is however closed now(probably) - nobody returns calls, the website is down, no notice - it shows how much they regard their patrons......... |
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Don't know about all men, but, the hottest chick on Earth can only give me what she's got. And I get what she's got at home. For me to want her goodies, she has to be sexy, flirty, good self esteem, good personality. If I wanna fuck a bitch I'd call one of my exwives.
Now with Lulu, she'd like someone that makes her laugh. But to get to that poit he'd have to look somewhat desirable.
In another words, men are not picky, if you got a nice personality we don't care about the looks, age, shape, race, etc. as long as you have the right kind of legs. |
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Physical attraction is a must. That being said, physical attraction can depend greatly on the personality aura surrounding it. And straight up, we only play with people we like and feel comfortable with in non sexual situations. |
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Like moabpair said, physical attraction is mandatory. Are we really going to want to have sex with someone we do not find physically appealing? However, beyond that, we still need to be engaged on other levels. We are not going trust our bodies, identities, and -- if hosting -- home to someone who seems stupid, arrogant, rude, entitled, or otherwise off-putting.
It might seem shallow, but an absolutely winning personality is just not going to make someone VERY "not my type" a playmate. However, a terrific personality can make an okay person much more attractive and a lousy personality can override the gorgeous outer shell. |
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With alot of folks saying a great personality is at the top of the list. What about someone that really isn't a people person and stands back in the crowd. Do they usually lose out in play? And if their partner does have an outgoing personality, is funny, well liked will that make up for the non-social partner? |
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Since I said "looks first", I might not be the best one to answer, but I cannot keep my mouth shut. ;) I have to present this thought: How would a wallflower attract or keep a couple's attention?
In the context of a site like ST, we find people by running searches or by being contacted by others. In a search, there are plenty of results from which to pick. What makes us pick one profile over another to even view? If the person/couple has an engaging tagline rather than yet another "want 2 play", then I am likelier to look. Once viewing the profile, I am going to want to see some personality and effort put into the profile. This is an ad; sell yourself to me! If the person contacts me, then did the person do so in an engaging manner? (Site pet peeve: I really do not like the "Interested" options; I wish that people had to write me to contact me.) Again, does the person have a fun and engaging profile?
In the context of a club or other in-person meeting place, you are likelier to notice the active and fun people (and the physically attractive ones; yeah, I said it) than the ones skulking in the shadows (unless that is your thing). You are also likelier to notice those who approach you, rather than those who just stay shyly away.
In both cases, having a more engaging partner certainly can help the quieter or shy individual. A gregarious partner shall more likely create an inviting and personable profile or approach others at a club. The quieter partner can ride along his/her outgoing partner's wake in either situation.
However, if the quiet parter is so quiet and dull that s/he gives off an unpleasant/indifferent/hostile vibe, then chances suddenly become much slimmer that anything is going to happen. |
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Well,
that's such a complex subject.
I'd have to go back to dating while single.
I met my wife at a point in my life when beautiful women will throw their underwear at me, however I was broken hearted after my ex wife had an abortion without telling me that she was pregnant.
I never had an Asian fantasy, never dated/fucked/gave the time of the day to a girl thet wasn't a model material.
Bought a cpl drinks out of boredom to the girls sitting next to me at the bar, and, Lu thanked me and started a conversation, at wich point I saw her beauty.
I would've walked past her a million times without a single thought if it wasn't for her witty nature when she first spoke to me.
10 yrs later we're married, have 4 kids and we love each other to pieces.
Now, if a person is got the most beautiful mind or soul but they're shy, any sane person will assume they're not interested.
We can't read minds.
However it is the personality that wins 9 times out of 10. While when single I was the playboy, as a couple we find that Lu wins everyone with her personality. Men and women alike just wanna see more of her gorgeous smile, and listen to her infectious laugh. And the other woman wouldn't be comfortable about their man fucking"that bitch". The swinging revolves around the ladies, they set the pace......
There's really no difference between dating as a single person or dating as a couple, except that as a couple you need a 4 way connection which is harder to find....
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Wow, I can tell you the person I am seeing and go out as a couple, vs me going alone I mean, really doesn't have a personality. I mean he will engage in conversation but not much. Sense of humor dry to non existent at best. However, he is very intelligent and knowledgeable about all kinds of topics. He will laugh at a joke or funny comment but that's it. I see the real him but other people feel uncomfortable, I think, around him. Maybe its his look, maybe his personality, maybe both. Ouch, what is a person to do in that case. Sit on the side lines and watch? Any suggestions on making him more playable? |
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I almost alwayssssss go for the quiet ones in the corner as I can get a good conversation going. Last party I met a really great guy...he was a published author and a good kisser!
We have one party we go to a lot, most times Todd is out flirting and fucking and I am talking in the corner or something.
Sharon |
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No.
People do not change. If you try and pressure him into changing the way he is he's not gonna be genuine, and he's gonna be unconfortable.
The way you liked him for who he is, someone else might appreciate these same qualities.
Ever since I can remember I was told to stop fighting with people and stop speaking my mind. Well,you don't want a honest opinion, don't ask me I don't sugar coat stuff, I call a sh!t a shit no matter how much chocolate you try and cover it with.
Your man would be the one I'd keep as friend. |
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Gawwyyyy..........
You're a Texan, before you go explaining observing to all these nice northern folks, you have to school them in Texan/Southern ways.
I'll try:
If you never saw Texas Judge:
A Texan is the most genuine, gentle and honest folk out htere, that will give a honaest folk and a thief the same chance.
He'd let you push his buttons and see how far you'd take his honest nature before he'd call your bluff and let you know that he knew your game all along, he just gave you chance after chance after chance.
In most ways they're quite similar to Siciliand which will also give you the shirt off their back, and both will linch you for messing with their property.
There's two kinds of people in the world, Texans and the less fortunate. Myself, I can only wish I'll get a chance to move back there again, die and get planted there.
Do not confuse a Texan redneck with a Louisiana hillbilly, a Texan is a real gentleman, a Texan woman is a lady.
Trigger happy yet honest, they'll always yell "freeze" and shoot sebveral warning shots after they'll shoot your ass for stealing.
There's warning signs all thru their roads "Don't mess with Texas" and they do mean it. Probably one of the last places on Earth where you can still bank on a hand shake. |
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Also the only state with pasta, cereal, corn chips, paving stones, etc shaped like the map. |
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Sounds like we need to party with you guys. But if is not the personality per sey maybe the look. go look at DaCpl on here and then give me your opinion. The pic is grainy at best. but it still gives you what you will need to know to help out. As far as the name DaCpl goes long story on that. different time and thread.
M |
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We prefer to look at the heart and get to know each other first. If our spirits cannot get along then off we go. But if our spirits do.. then looks make no difference. We do not care what the outside reflects. My wife is BBW but she is full of life and has never met a stranger. I fell in love with her heart.
Ed and Nita |
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I have to admit that I do have to have a visual of the people/person before we go to far in contact. Now that being said it is not to find out if they are sexually attractive, it is to see if they are comfortable enough in their "lifestyle" to share. I do not discriminate color, size or anything else, cause if I had I would have missed out on some amazing people!
You can have preferences (ie- circumcised or not. We've been asked this one many times.) we all have one :) |
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Ill put a true Texan up against A Southern Gentleman and his Lady anyday!
Ed and Nita |
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As I said, it's been almost 15 years and I still have the Texas bug. Canadian Alberta is supposed to be a Northern/colder Texas, but, with my last breath I'd always whisper that name........God bless Texas, it's the best place on Earth and I've'd lived and traveled in over 50 countries.......... |
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A pulse usually works for me. If you don't have one, I usually move on. |
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Your question specified about playing with another person/couple and not whether or not you would choose to get to know them.
For myself I am the quiet one in new situations and would rarely approach people, my partner is more out going but stays with me until I feel comfortable.
The has to be something about a person that gets my attention but I don't have a specific type I like. It could be hearing someones laugh, seeing their smile, a creative outfit they chose to wear or any of a number of other things.
We do not generally play with people we don't know and have found that a person either becomes more or less attractive the more we get to know them. Size does play a roll for me, I just don't find extremely thin or overly large people attractive, that does however leave a wide range of sizes and shapes. I find breast implants a real turn off but have played with a women who had them. I don't like the man to be thinner than me but have played with a man who was.
Overall it is the whole package I find attractive or unattractive. |
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lol My line, warm with a pulse. lol
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sounds like a threesome |
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Yes, you hit the nail in the head, most Italians are honest to a fault, hardworking and genuine. We dislike Mafia, crooked cops and all politicians. That's why I loved Texas so much, people are just so similar. Unfortunately my first exwife who still lives there got to make my past so complicated that US Immigration still doubts my reasons for visiting/traveling to the US that even without a criminal record and with financial stability, they keep denying me entry......... |
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I agree with you guys on this one. But, if no pulse, you just have to catch them before they start getting cold. :lmao: |
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We are deffinately all about the personallity, when we view a profile we like to Read what it says first, if that sounds good we move to the pics. We have to be able to get along with the people first. We love to laugh and have a good time and that doesnt take looks, now personal hygiene is very important. My wife is a heavy lady but one night with her in bed leaves you deffinately wanting more, but of course if looks are what you seek then you are defiinately missing out on a lot of wonderful people out there. Our 2 cents. |
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