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every get one of them replies and says their a couple or a woman but something tells you that they arent who they say they are... like a bi woman who wants to meet woman , but never goes on cam or has face shot ,, mmmmmmmmmmmmm make you wonder , if not a guy profile.... |
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There are a lot of fakes for sure most being single or married men posing as couples or women.
A lot of folks keep their face pics private, we are not one of them but can see why it's important to some.
As a rule I do not cam with anyone but could see quickly proving I am a lady then turning it off. |
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see we are a couple to , and i do have pics of faces but are in private cuz of his work, but when it comes to cam , i dont even wanna go there , i was treated badly by the chat room , because i didnt have a cam , i dont like them , and i got to get to know ya before ya get what i got and hubbys the same way and each of us has to be comfortable and approve, i know that might sound picky but when it comes to stds or drug users or mainly reall pushy assholes we dont put up with that , we are not in school anymore and and dont put up with drama, weve had a few threesomes and even went solo ,the both of us cuz we trusted those people not to talk or cause drama , plus we have to be very discret we have teenagers. so and as for me i call my self rite noe BI curious i like to watch , touch and play with toys or my hands but going down im haveing a problem with lol i dont know why!!!! but we are deffently a couple 20 yrs now thru thick and thin and havent had a prob with this lifestyle at all so far, he hardly gets on here cuz im always on it, he just likes looking at everyones pics, but ive made so many friends but they live so far away, but we will cut up and joke and even do some sexy talk , but thats our story!!!! lol lmao :sexywink: |
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It is sometime a challenge to weed those types out. I think asking the right questions and tripping them up is a good way to find out if they are who they are or simply cam up for a moment...prove who you are.
If they are serious Swingers, you shouldn't have to go through all those steps...they would offer it right up from the start if they thought you were a bit apprehensive and would totally understand! |
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its a hard balance, and for some, they have no choice but to be discreet due to the judgment of others.pic collectors, fakes and frauds count on this and exploit it. in turn, it makes a very reasonable request like " i would like to get to know what im getting into before i show face pics " seem suspect. me and my wife show everything on our public photos, its just who we are. but others have the right to control there image as they see fit, giving it to who they want when they want. but people also have the right to due diligence, to make sure that the person there talking to is who they say they are. because its also a pretty reasonable request to see the face of someone you would like to have sex with. i think we as a culture "swingers" should police our own. if you come across someone that you can prove is not who they say they are, OUT THEM! warn others, let them know your on to them. enough people do it, it will eventually become too much work to keep there BS going . |
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i PROMISE i am a single bi female...but i dont answer any pms from people i dont know, please talk to me in chat or write me a real email, not just a message saying that you are interested...and i ignore every profile without pictures... |
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Aren't single and married mean allowed to part of the swingers world? If you only meet with complete couples or bi women, are you a real swinger? I think it all depends on who you are looking for and how open minded you really are. I am what I say I am....just read my profile. |
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I am also the unattached bisexual guy my profile says I am. However, a lot of the fakes (singles and couples) stand out as their profiles all seem to have similar information. I don't know if this the usual fakes some site managers put out there to keep interest in the site high or I am becoming jaded by my experience on this and other sites. It is true that I have met a couple of very nice couples with whom I had a lot of fun. My having a relationship with a single woman on this site seems to be very allusive. In my e-mails with single women (as well as with couples), I am always respectful and never crude. However, not one single woman has responded which makes me think that 99% of the single women on this site are fakes put up by the site manager. I truely hope I am just being paranoid. |
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I know the feeling...seems when you do get a reply, it's to visit some other site or video chat with a credit card.... |
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So true. I have been hit up to go to commercial sites from here a lot. |
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Your profile is straightforward and when you say you travel without your partner that leaves an open door for questions which I'm sure you've had. I appreciate how you state it, and it shows you are not hiding things! Many DO NOT state that in their profile and it's like pulling teeth it brings pain and angst to those involved.
Single people are essential in this lifestyle as many couples are looking for 3somes, and fact is 3somes consist of one couple and a single. It's not just partner swapping.
Best of luck on your search!
Sharon |
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I hope ya'll report those profiles to help keep the community clean and free from those profiles! Seems like a lot of those are going around lately.
Sharon |
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There are some quality single women on this site, trust me...I used to be one of them! lol
Sharon |
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I can vouche for that. I met Sharon when She was single and took her home with me and we have never looked back. Single people on this site are an important part of the lifestyle and we have enjoyed knowing the few we have met and are looking forward to meeting more in the future. So far its been mostly men so for, But we are looking forward to meeting more women in the future. Good luck to everyone in their seach for excitement. It is worth it.
Todd. |
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so true makes you wonder they just want to chat and not meet .. and never seem to be around at the same time,, lol she either sleeping or invisible lol.. but for the most been wonderful and meet alot of nice people along the way |
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so very true.... my pictures of dave and i are real and up to date.. we both like to see who were talking too and then were okay if they dont want to cam .. we dont always cam but putting a face with the profile and the talk is much nicer ... and most of the time we have met really nice couples and singles and its been wonderful journey. |
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oh yes single men are allowed and married, if the partner agrees he can wonder off and venture .. but when they say they are a couple and only the male chats and cams and never get to see her or meet her,, makes us both wonder .. if he not just in this for him and hiding and playing games. you can be single married and more.. but as long as you are honest and open and truthful and respectful .. |
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I think some people over look the attached male..but really, the threat of an attached male getting too involved with your partner? Really? I've seen some on hear say they welcome married men, and those who act like it is a sin and a crime. How does it affect a couple? They play according to thier rules for each other and why not a married man, can't he have different rules? How is it different from a couple who state they meet or play alone if it suits them? I'm sure there have been problems and some are just assuming..but if they are real, who cares if they are in additional relationships, it's just sex..not love!! |
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Maybe they need to add, married male or married female to the list, to denote when a person is 'playing single' but married? |
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Personally, I enjoy the sex and the excitement of having a pleasurable time with a couple or someone of the same or opposite gender without having to dig into their motivation for wanting to spend time with me. I really don't care if the woman is or is not married or a couple feels they have to have sex with others to save their marriage. I do not need the drama. As long as everyone is enjoying the passion, pleasure, and tenderness of the moment, we are all getting our needs fulfilled. I am not the relationship police.
The rules women and couples put on having a pleasurable time only shows their insecurity in their other relationships. No kissing is the stupidest one I often hear - like making out with the wife (or husband) in the heat of passion will ruin the couple's marriage. Unless the rules are health related, I stay away from singles and couples that have too many rules. Those type of people shouldn't be in the swinging lifestyle.
Some people just over analyze something that is supposed to be fun and pleasurable - SEX.
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I agree with your point, kinda makes sense..the no drama that everyone says they don't want..don't ask..and there's no drama..I like it! |
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I like to know the people I play with whether they are a couple or a single man or women.
In getting to know people by chatting you can get a feel for several things - whether the couple is secure enough to swing, whether a single is married or is high maintance etc...
I think you leave yourself open for drama if you don't get to know your partners.
We are not really interested in married men, we are not here to hurt anyone by helping their partner step out on them. Other people feel different so each their own thing. |
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is it because they are married? or because you think they are dishonest and hs wife might not know? Seems that if you want people to believe what you say, then if a man says he is married and she knows, then she knows..right? I for one try to believe what a couple states in their profile. I have yet to ask anyone to prove their own statements. |
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Why yes it is because they are married, I don't care whether the spouse knows or not. We will never play separate and are not interested in playing with couples that do. The potential for trouble is there and we want to avoid it.
All the couples in the lifestyle that I know that have split have played separate.
As for believing whats written in profiles, I take them with a grain of salt. In our experience there are a lot of half truths or untruths, especially where single men are concerned. We have met our fair share of people much older and much heavier than stated in their profiles just for an example. |
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Wow large jump there for a single guy to make, because a couple may have rules they are insecure and shouldn't be in the lifestyle.. thank fully your much to far away and therefore we never will have the to meet you. People have different rules and you stating they shouldn't simply shows you don't have the capacity to respect a couple, their marriage or the relationship they have with each other. Simply put it looks like you are in it for your own pleasure and the hell with whomever has the misfortune of hooking up with you..
Your thought processes are the reason many couples pass on single men, and that is the simple truth |
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