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Guys? I realize there are many answers to this question. I am speaking of your female partner that you care about, love, and know what she likes and gets her off. After lovemaking with her you have an orgasm and she doesn't what thoughts, feelings, emotions do you experience? |
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Does that actually happen? I thought it was an urban myth. |
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Need you to clarify your question. She has no orgasm because I never took the time and effort, she didn't want one, just couldn't get there or what?
My answer would depend on which senario it is. |
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If we make love she does come several times. And I end up sleeping in the wet spot.
However Lu doesn't care much about morning sex and she participates just so I can get off. No thoughts, morning sex just makes my day....... |
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If she does not orgasm by my awesome cock...then i go down on her til she explodes...i am not a selfish lover. |
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It happens..there are times that I don't either. Or I can have several. Sometimes it's mood..sometimes I literally don't want one. I realize your asking for a males opinion..but from a Womans perspective no big deal. If all I am looking for is a orgasm I can easily take matters in my own hands. |
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Pasley, Yes to all three scenarios. I'm interested in reading your answer for all three. |
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There are many occasions where the reverse occurs. Whereby, I the male is the one that doesn't orgasm, but rather she does, and she does hard. It's not a big deal as we see it as it works out in the end, there are times where I will just take her when I have the urge, and there are times where she will take me. It's a situation that well over a period of time and this comes down to experience in my opinion that as many have responded, it just doesn't happen, or it a night for her, or for me...and the needs of the other is of no consequence.
Azzurro |
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My wife was a, hard cum. There were times I didn't cum. In part, because I'd try not too. Then have a hard time getting over the top.
I/we would play for hours. Some times a cock wouldn't do it. We'd break out the toys, a video and do more oral. Some times she would just push me away, just too sensitive to take any more.
After 20 years, we knew each others buttons, just, sometimes they just didn't work.
To answer your question, sometimes I felt bad, that I could get her close, so many times, and just couldn't give her that orgasm. When we first got together, I felt VERY bad. I could cum,2 or 3 times and fall asleep with a woody. I was young then. lol After that, it was no big deal. There was always the next time.
B Bopp |
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After 37 years, I don't get off unless she does and that's just the way it is. I used to feel guilty when we were younger and I got my jollies and for one reason or another (I can't say it was never neglect) she didn't but that's not a consideration any more. I know the signs and signals now. Because of age related issues, upbringing, hormones and psychology, we aren't as active as I wish but when the mood strikes her and we do engage, I make sure it always has the same outcum. :-) |
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I'm am glad to hear that there are women (other than myself) that don't always "get there" easily. I know its not from neglect or lack of trying on the man's side. Also not from my own lack of interest cause I do enjoy the lovemaking. Just don't achieve orgasm every time. Because of that I wanted to know how a man felt when It happens. Thank you all for your replies they were helpful.
M |
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well since you posted up, as another woman I can say I do have times when I cannot cum.....Todd will push all the buttons he knows and it may not happen. I've learned over the years that sometimes its just as good to stop, wait awhile and then go back at it. I get hypersensitive sometimes and that can be counter productive when trying to relax and cum.... It is frustrating on both our ends, but in the end I know that my time will cum.
And then...there are times when I think there is no way in hell he's gonna get me off and then he pulls out the big guns and his hand is soaked with creamy white cum!
Sharon |
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Id feel bad tat iswhy i always get them off first with my tongue and if they cum again with my pecker thats an added bonus
Rob |
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From the womens perspective I am tough go for him. I also have never cum when we play with others. I have spoken with several women in the lifestyle who have the same issue when playing.
My brain is always active and thinking a million things so I find it hard to focus fully on the task at hand so to speak. For me if I squirt then I can't cum for awhile as I become just to sensitive.
The only time it bothers me is if I have been sitting on the fence a long time and just can't get over no matter what we. I imagine those times to be frustrating for him as well. Other times I know it won't happen right from the start but I get a lot of pleasure from feeling him move inside me. That coupled with the intimacy we create is more than enough to keep me happy. |
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He tells me that I keep him on his toes because he can never do the same thing twice and be guaranteed it will work. My menstral cycle has a lot to do with it. Different things work at different times of the month. An example would be my nipples, sometimes playing with them is almost enough to make me cum yet other times you can't even get near them because they hurt so much. My breasts get very swollen and hot to the touch during certain parts of my cycle. |
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That's where knowing and being able to, read, your partner, comes in handy.
In the lifestyle, it is hard to get to know someone that well. It's hard to relax and have the most fun you can have. |
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As far as cunning goes, the same can be true for men. Many men have not been able to "preform" do to anxiety/nerves of being with someone new, or having a cows watch ( especially at the clubs I have found)
Such is life, only so much a person can do.. |
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Gotta love auto correct...*crowds |
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That's exactly what I meant to imply. The proverbial single male has a bad rep, in this area.
Being, more or less, a nudest and comfortable in my own skin. Being nude doesn't bother me. Having been around, for a while, having more then one couple in bed and who knows how many standing around, hasn't been much of a problem. Still, stage fright and anxiety is still a problem. First times can be very embarrassing. |
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MEE TOO! Remember the question is about you and your partners lovemaking. With that said, When I meet a guy I like and start to date, They will ask what I like. I say "I know my body well enough, that whatever I tell you today I like and will get me off, it will have changed by our next sex fest." Its has if the sweet spot is always moving. Not even I know where it will be until its found. |
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Isn't this the truth! And if in a hurry, You can miss or pass over the new sweet spot. Last time, it was the neck, this time the hands.
You have the quite and or shy partner. They are hard to, "read", and asking, can make it worse. |
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I don't think I can remember a time when we both didn't cum during sex. For us....that is why we had sex....to make each other cum. Sometimes we have had to take matters into our own hands to finish...but we aren't finished until we both come. The sad part is....Kat can cum 3-4 times in 15 minutes....not true for me. :) |
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