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What are the advantages and disadvantages of attending a Swingers Club/Party with a Ticket? Can you really enjoy swinging if your Ticket falls in love with you? What would you do if your Ticket becomes jealous? What is a winning Ticket? |
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What is a ticket? |
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A ticket is a low life that brings in a friend, roommate, brother or client so he can get laid. Since most swingers assume that a couple at the club are married/LTR, they would play with them.
We had a looser that came in with a Ticket and was uninformed about the lifestyle try to enter Lu bareback in the butt, after she repeatedly said NO, thus breaking all 3 of our rules(condoms a must, no anal and, no means no), so I almost put him in a coma. That was 3 years ago.
A cpl weeks ago, this lady came to our play area, introduced herself and her man as a couple, then she left. We didn't played with him, we told him to get her if he wants to play, they came as a cpl, and, we weren't looking to be used in that manner.
It's common practice for escorts to take a John to a club if she isn't available herself.
If you are considering going in with a "ticket" make sure you inform your playmates that you're just play partners, or you might run into the wrong person, that will take it personally that you put their health at risk and use them, I would.
Not kosher, if you're single, say so, there's plenty of couples including us that play with single men.
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But I used to bring single guys in to parties with me as a single girl. EVERYONE knew we were just partnered for the night, neither of my escorts were low lifes, they just happen to be single men looking for fun just like the rest of us! So to say a "Ticket" is a lowlife, is just WRONG. and the common practice for taking a "John", I would place my money on how many times I've seen this occur..... never in the past 10 years. Perhaps you are venturing in the wrong clubs?
Sharon |
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To answer the Original Post... there was one time when I had one of my "Tickets" get jealous and that one time was the last time he came with me to that event. If you set the rules and guidelines of the relationship before you venture out that evening or make it a standing agreement, there is no room for misconceptions or misunderstandings. Having the right environment for playing, a good set of friends, and a confidence in yourself you should be able to navigate yourself around MOST bad situations! If you find you are having the same issues all the time, perhaps you need to readjust your priorities on whom you select to be your "ticket"
Best of luck,
Sharon |
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The last ticket I got was for speeding! lol lol xoxo Shirley |
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Seems like some of you guys have not updated your Swingernary (swingers dictionary). |
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I JUST googled it...lol
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So that is what she is called. My ticket in.
Since almost all my clubs, parties and events are on line basted, I need a profile. Going to IT. in Canada, TSC. in Tenn, JP's. in Vegas,or LAT. in Tx, they already know I'm single.
True, it's cheaper for me to go as a couple. It is also safer for her, to be with someone.
But to USE someone, just to gain entrance to a Lifestyle event, is wrong. My way of thinking, if you NEED a TICKET, to be in the Lifestyle, you might need to re think what the Lifestyle is about.
B Bopp |
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I see your point as well. There's a difference between you going in with a FB and playing TOGETHER and letting anyone know you're there as playpartners for the night vs introducing yourself and your friend to a couple then the ticket leaving, which is what the last ticked did.
Just like a couple bringing in their 3rd( M/F) a single guy that comes with a ticket has the same rules of NOT approaching ALONE a couple unless invited. We don't play at clubs for this exact reason, we don't wanna find ourselves surrounded by single guys jerking off. If we decide on a gang bang fantasy, we would take the appropriate steps, no need for us to fuck your horny friend that can't otherwise get a date. Just my 0.02 |
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We play at clubs often...The only problem I have ever had while playing is a MARRIED man approaching and touching when not invited. I find the single men are way more cautious and aware then the married men. |
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I made the mistake of taking an ex partner to our lifestyles club where he proceeded to tell everyone that he was single and that we had broken up and was looking for another partner. The club organizers confronted me at the end of the night and I apologized till blue in the face and was asked to not return. I felt horrible for not knowing the rules in the first place(plus being an idiot for trusting him) and second for losing some really great freinds. All in all if you don't make it clear what your intentions and those of the club are,
you are either going to end up with hurt feeling or some really pissed off people and miss out on some great times. |
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I have always had more issues with married men myself Babs....they come in with the attitude that since they have a partner they are more entitled to messing around with others than a single guy is. I have found most single guys have an amazing understanding on where their boundaries lay compared to their married counterparts.
Sharon |
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To me, a winning Ticket is someone who fully understands the prospect and has respect and passion for same. I've also realized that cougars are often the number one choice for a Winning Ticket, because their ultimate goal is to compete and thus keep you coming. Also I've observe that those who Swing together, stay together. |
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There's nothing wrong with Ticketing. It's much easier for a man if he attends a Party with 2 or 3 Tickets instead of one, because to me swinging in public supposed to be fun. "Swinging in private is a bit different, and it requires more information, precaution, protection in general and respect for person and property". |
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I don't know what kind of parties you attend. I'm not sure I would attend a party that you need a ticket or can use one to get in.
I am blocked from, "on line, sign up" for most up coming parties. A ticket, will not help,nor change that. A phone call, will, get me on the attending list, as a single.
I don't need a Ticket, to attend some, couples only and, select single men, parties. I've been going to these for years.
It's true, I have split the Cost and will, again, of some parties.
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Thank you!
When we play with a couple, we ASSUME that they are a COUPLE, married or in a LTR.
We played with a cpl where the other lady forgot completely that she had a husband, and, days later we were thinking that maybe they were brother and sister and both horny and helping eachother get off? It sucks feeling used.
There's nothing worst than LYING, and LYING BY OMMISION is not excusable in our book.
Bringing your buddy to us for us to fuck while you walk away is in poor taste, WTF, we can find our own single guy, and we're not that ugly or that desperate.
Having your buddy attempting anal rape on my wife, bareback, after her repeated NO's you can bet your sweet ass if the bodyguards didn't got me off him I would've probably killed him. And yes, the "ticked" got banned, and, if she dares come back Lulu would probably scratch her eyes out and I'll help her dig the hole.
Now some people may just politely call the hosts and get them out, but you could also run into someone like us that went thru 4 mths of hell when another idiot took off his condom while Lu wasn't on any birth control and we worried about everything from raising a bastard to leaving our kids orphaned. That someone may just do what I did.
And for what, because you think your drinking buddy should get some free ass?
All it would've taken was for her to inform her friend about the rules, to stop him(apparently she told him not to touch Lulu but he didn't listen) and to inform the potential playmates that they're not a couple.
We fuck married people for a specific reason, we think they are less prone to STD's than a single person, that has multiple sex partners, hookers, gay sex, etc. |
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Ok, so men are STUPID, I am the first to agree. We cannot read women, and women assume that somehow we're intuitive and all of us are telepathic. So I go to a club, the music is loud, everyone is happy, mix that with a few drinks and everyone looks sexy. Now you smile at one, and, in their genius they'd assume you're interested. A single guy doesn't have the security blanket a married guy does, some of them are single BECAUSE they are shy around women.
We asked a single guy that Lulu liked, to play with us and he was too dumb or too shy, yet he called us a cpl days later when the mood was gone. Last Sat, the same thing, we met a single guy, he wanted to meet with Lulu ALONE! WTF? We don't play ALONE! Babs previously posted that she does, that's why it works for her. Try and play as a couple and see how many single guys will still get an erection when they'll see a hairy man with an erection next to them.
Not our fault we cannot read the signs or guess that you were there for the view or to eat pussy, or to fuck solely single guys or get whipped or whatever other kink you have. I am sure no married man will dare undress you, he may cup a feel but ladies do that to me all the time, swinger or vanilla clubs alike. And I flirt with every woman, from the paper girl(she's a hot single mom) to Lulu's friend that's 80 yo, and of course all her girlfriends. |
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When in a club environment, it is only natural when someone finds another person attractive that they inquire on their availability. If someone came up to me interested in fucking my partner I'd be flattered that they think he has something to offer... I would not get offended and wonder why they insist on asking if they can fuck him....how would they know they couldn't unless they asked?
And...if anyone cops a feel from me they better turn around and anticipate my smack that will follow. Intentional touching without permission is a BIG issue with me.
Sharon
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Every time we meet a couple I kiss the lady, to make sure there's no jealousy issues. As for cupping, I do not recall ever being invited to, however I just went by the signs and body language, the flirting and the ladies smile, and I haven't been smacked so far. I wouldn't just walk up to you and kiss/touch you, I'd initiate a conversation, and I'd mention that you're kissable if you are, or wait for you to make a first move.
Everyone is different so I always ask anything that crosses my mind at the time, laugh it off it it doesn't work, go for it if it does, if I'd waited to be invited for anything, I'd be a starved to death, dehydrated virgin. |
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I agree with you. What is that saying " assuming makes a ass out of you and me?"...If I have learned anything from the lifestyle it is to never assume anything. And I had a guy put his hand up my skirt and into my panties, I smacked him.. Uninvited touching is never acceptable. period. |
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We have also played as a couple, or invite someone in for a MFM ( yes, sometimes married men too). We have never had a problem. As of matter of fact we had a DP ( where yeah.cocks are kinda close)...no one had a problem "Getting it up"...
Maybe instead of assuming or trying to "Read the signs" you need to be more forthcoming. I don't mean that in regards of touching, but by talking. Same goes for the kissing thing, not all couples kiss others...And cannot just assume that they do. When I find a couple, and if I am interested in playing I ALWAYS ask the rules, just to be safe. I have also learned that when you go back to a hotel with a couple make sure to ask who else they invited...that is one I learned the hard way..lmao.
I have played with couples where the female is jealous, and I make sure to pay most of my attention to her, to ease her fear of thinking I am just after him. Everyone has different comfort levels and I try to be very careful of respecting all boundaries. |
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So let's agree that when it comes to swinging there's set rules but no easy way to go about you. I'm not sure who fondled you, but, I wouldn't be impressed if I saw a guy doing it uninvited either. And I'd be the one to defend any lady that's uncomfortable, not just my wife.
If it's at our place/a hotel, with another couple, is a different story as at that point we are there to play. However, we go to clubs not to play but to mostly flirt, have a good time and feel sexy, meet new people without pressure, not to be groped, if it happens in the right atmosphere/situation we take it with a pinch of salt, if it's out of the blue, then it's a different story. We're both comfortable being caught up in the moment and doing what feels good at the time, and, sometimes, when you are caught up in the moment you're bound to make the wrong choices, we both ended up taking one for the team as a result.
No Babs I would not touch you uninvited but I will drive you to the point where you'd beg me to than leave.
Or I'd do what we did before at a club where a girl was too unapproachable, I'll put on a show that will make you leave the club in tears. Did I mentioned that we both LOVE to tease?
On another note, everyone, please stop twisting my words, all this English thinking is giving me a headache. |
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"Or I'd do what we did before at a club where a girl was too unapproachable, I'll put on a show that will make you leave the club in tears. Did I mentioned that we both LOVE to tease?"
what do you mean? |
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We really are that good! I know everyone heard it before, but, we did mastered the art of sex somehow.
So she b!tched at Lulu while they were talking, and Lu decided to show her what she missed out on. After watching us perform she was so upset with herself that she started crying, especially when her Adonis came before he got his condom on watching us LOL, we laughed all the way home! We think we are/should be exhibitionists now......
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His hands went up your skirt & in your panties! Hell!!! You took real long before you smacked him! |
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Speedy Gonzales maybe? LOL Maybe his hand were too rough/not rough enough? Or he didn't knew which strings to play once he got to the guitar? Regardless, there's no smoke without fire, that's why I don't fondle my banker.......... |
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It was as I was walking past...It all happened very quick. My husband then went and had some words with him, he was very apologetic, Of course he would be when confronted by my 6'4 230lbs husband. The managers of the club caught wind of it quickly and he was walked out. |
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Swinging is not for everybody. It's a state of mind. Some people are curious and they just come to the clubs to see stuff. Some come to have fun and tear the place down. During the early hours of the gathering, you have to establish mutual interests before play time catches up with you and by time the night is done you're left Wet & Wondering. Swinging is exciting and relaxing! |
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I agree!!
Love the clubs, love the people ( well....most..:) and love the lifestyle.
And going back to your original post...I have brought single men into the club on nights where single men normally wouldnt be allowed. I have never had a problem with them, and I am happy to help out the single guys! |
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By the time I see that 6' I'm not even waiting to see the next 4". I'm gone! |
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The licks to get is being butt naked. Lol. |
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Speedy Gonzales got more speed when he saw Mr. 6'4". lol. |
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Swinging is also expensive in some parts. I wish my Company use to fit the Entrance Fee Bill to some of these Clubs. But the funny thing is, I don't want the price to go down, instead it can go up. "Keeps Out The Undesirables". |
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And his truck is bigger, and, my car is faster, really Babs, what does size have to do with anything? I've seen several football players being dropped by a skinny redneck cowboy at a rodeo in Texas, and anyone will hurt from a hickory axe handle, a kick in the balls or a punch in the throat. Everyone that's started a fight will tell you they're always afraid that the other guy might be crazier and tougher that they are. So in the end it comes down to self esteem and pain tolerance.
The guy was apologetic to avoid a confrontation, if he would've been cornered he would've defended himself, everyone does.
I've been around the world a few times Babs, you're not winning this one. If the guy had something to protect(pride) he would've, but he probably didn't have a wife/girlfriend watching him curl into a ball. |
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You are The Help!!! I taught the Help only looks out for The Geriatrics, you've change all that. Instead you're looking out for The Gentlemen. |
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That's not kosher in our books, if you do wanna help your buddies get off why don't you just blow them in their car? |
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Wowy...
Its not kosher to use your phone in clubs either...but you did..
A BJ in the car??..Give me a fucking break. |
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You're funny Magi.. Very funny. "A hickory Axe Handle". Lol. |
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Or in a park after dark. But don't do it in NY, because parks close after 8pm. You'll get a ticket. I'll be the most expensive blow. |
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Is somebody trying to capture the moment? |
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It's called different time zones, while there's night and partying in this part of the pond, there's another half world that is awake, working and going about the business. I happen to work in both parts of the pond, by phone, internet and flying, and I need to take care of business, too many families depend on it, including mine; that's why I eat, sleep, drink, shower and bathe with my phone close by. I am sorry if I hurt someone's feelings in the process, but we all have bills to pay, and different priorities. And, my phone is a military grade phone, no camera or gadgets, so there were no pictures taken at any point. It seems that without meeting you I rubbed you the wrong way, why don't you just enlighten me about my/our trespasses, on an open forum or on private, just so I'll know who do I owe an apology to. |
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Multitasking! Hmm! That's Sexy! |
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I often wonder how it feels to be under a naked woman, she has a Motorola in one hand and my bald head in the other. Lol. |
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Listening to you guys made us realize that there's really much more to swinging than just sex. Thank for the warm welcome. Both of you are funny as hell. |
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Isn't that the truth.......lmao |
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One time I entered a club with to tickets. One had a sense of humor and the other was like a police. The humorous one really made my day, while the police keep trying to lock me away. After a few strong drinks, we all had fun. |
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You were not there that night, and you make assumptions based on hearsay. Now that you mentioned, I clearly remember that my phone was TURNED OFF, except for when I went on the patio for a smoke, and, several people were checking their TXT's/VM. I made a call to my German partner, it was an emergency, and, out of courtesy for the ones present, I carried the entire conversation in English. |
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First you admit it, saying you had to...then you deny it.
I didnt need to be there, not only did I hear from friends that were there. But also my husband, who was there. People were insulted and word travels VERY fast in this lifestyle. The rules are VERY clear and of course, you would know the rules right?, since after all you were advertising your own club, where I am SURE phones would not be allowed either...Even if you DO try to hold it under the table when you think no one is looking. |
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Thanx for dispersing the tension there, this conversation was going really fast in the wrong direction........
Babs, please send a pvt message and I'll be happy to address the issues, there's no reason we can't agree to disagree. xoxox |
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No problem. You guys were starting to pull each others hair (hope you didn't buy it). I was now about to place my bets. Lol. |
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If she had cuffs I bet it would have gotten interesting quicker....just sayin...:) |
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Why Can't We All Get Along? Lol. |
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If she had cuff? Did I not tell you guys that we're from NY and we're Magicians. Instead, we don't make you disappear, we make you cum. |
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I have many ventures, however, at the moment, NOT a venue/partying club of any sort.
The Sandbox Club is a NON PROFIT affinity group(Kind'a like the breakfast club, the pottery club, or the AA club), where all members with certain affinities, are taking part in organizing events, meet/greet, house parties, get together s, etc. Lulu and I sponsored the group ourselves, and, while we put a great time and effort in it, we're still to see any membership fees or profit.
It is not a VENUE, and our goal is to make it flourish without spending more than $1,000.00, more of a dare if you wish.
And, if you think you can do better, I am ready to turn it over to you today, lock stock and barrel, for FREE.
As I said, HEARSAY! |
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It sounds like those half hour commercials. But if you throw in a few naked people, we'll gladly take it off your hands. Lol. |
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Now.... I just want a Ticket for the Magic Carpet Ride I was promised ages ago by someone who didn't follow thru. Oh, wait....was that a Carpet Muncher Ride not Magic Ride? ummmmm.
Sharon |
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Remember it's Halloween! So make sure you're riding a carpet and not a broom. Lol. |
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WOW! What a ride!! |
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Doesn't it give you warm fuzzies??...oh wait...that's me..:) |
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That you do!
B Bopp |
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Motorola sucks, Sanyo is the way to go if you want a phone that's just that, a phone. We use the SCP 7050, doubles as a walkie/talkie and is virtually indestructible. |
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Only the Battery sucks, not the phone. I won't have you. Lol. |
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But Nos. Her broom gets better fuel milage than the carpet. I should know, I tuned it up testerday. |
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Oops. Typo, Yesterday.
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I'm hoping the broomstick has no slivers this time around. try explaining that to your gyn lmao |
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Tell him or her you were sliding down the banister of life. lol |
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She was sweeping without panties. Oopps! |
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