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Just curious to hear your experiences the first time you husband or wife went out alone..How did you feel? |
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Its a little weird at first. You wonder what they are up to and if they are ok. Sharon and I have played apart. I will say this. If you are going to do it. It is best if you both have met the person together. That way both partners get an idea what kind of person the other may be meeting. If at anytime during this meeting either one of you have a bad feeling about this person then I would suggest passing on the solo play. And always know where they will be just in case something should happen. I usaully ask Sharon to call me when she is on her way home. I cannot stress enough that both of you must be comfortable and trust the others play partner or this could cause problems. |
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Tonight is the first night that my husband has gone to play solo....I have met her, super sweet girl. But ya always wonder....what are they doing, and when will he be home.....LOL |
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Just remember. When you are together it is love, When you are playing with someone else it is just sex. When he comes home. Don't be afraid to ask for details. Sharon and I Share everything. It can be very exciting to hear how it went. Sharon let me have a girlfriend for awhile when we met. It even led to us having a threesome with her. Good luck and I hope you get to have some fun also. |
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Oh I have had my fun. My husband has been ok with me going on my own for awhile now ( as long as he knows the person). It wasnt until very recently That I thought I was ok if he went out. I guess tonight will tell??..LOL |
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And when he comes home, talk about it...not necessarily the details on what happened between them...but talk about how you feel. There really is no way to predict the feeling you will have when something occurs till after the event. If you are uncomfortable discuss it, its better to get it out in the open and talk about it now than to be walking on eggshells every time he leaves to play because you said "yes" when you meant "no". This is where communication with your partner is essential. Talking through it will help you not only validate your emotions, but also help you put things into perspective.
Sharon :love:
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We dont do solo. We may do separate rooms but like to know where each other is. I would never ask my wife if I could go play alone. We have more fun when we are together.
Just my 2 cents
Ed and Nita :eyeore: |
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My wife had, had a girl friend before we met. She talked in great detail about her and other friends we both had. It was a couple of weeks after we became a couple that I first met her. By then, I/we had talked a couple times by phone. So I was confident my wives first solo would be, just a FWB. It turned out my wife was the more uncomfortable about this then I was.
As stated above, you must always keep your communication open and honest. Remember, this is about sex and having a good time.
B Bopp |
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Neither of us has an interest in going solo, it's just not why we are here. We also wouldn't do seperate room or even separate beds.
For us this is a journey we are taking together, to explore and share in the things that we cannot do alone as a couple. So for us it is more about 3 sums and 4 sums, seeing our partner enjoy each experience.
We do realize that exploration of ones sexuality takes different paths for different people and feel as long as both partners are truly happy on the path they have chosen and are not feeling pushed or dragged down that road then who are we to judge anyone.
In fact we used to have some great conversations with a married couple who each had a significant other on the side about how they chose their path and how they dealt with their various feelings etc.... I found the discussions enlightening. |
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This was really great advice Sharon. The night he went out I felt totally fine, the next morning...not quite so much. Everyday I have been coming up with new questions that I am curious about, and last night in bed together I ever got the nerve to ask a few questions while we were having sex. I am doing much better with it now, not perfect. Solo is still very new for us but communication really IS key. |
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