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My rant about the single guy not getting a fair deal here!!!We've been talking to three different men this week about a possible get together.The first one we met over a beer at a local bar,but couldn't invite him home with us cause the kids' plans had changed.So we invited him to come over the next night,so we could send the kids away for the night.He cancellrd an hour before he was suppose to be here.It happens no problem.The 2nd guy initiated an IM with us,after 30 minutes I told him we can meet later on in the evening,and he said he had to go to work that he'll get back with us.No problem it happens.Now the third guy we've been talking to for a week in e-mail and the last thing I e-mailed him was,"when and where?"And he still hasn't got back to me,yet I knew he was online and new he read that mail.So I got to say put up or shut up.
Andy |
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Let me add to this...Believe me I know how easy it is to talk the talk on here,cause I can talk a lot of crap,but when you initiate a conversation with someone and they set up a meet,at least have the balls to walk the walk... |
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I have a couple of those single guys myself...but you know they are the one's who are loosing out.
Sharon :love: |
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I'm a single guy and if the offer is there I'm cummin your way =P |
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That also holds true for couples. If you show some interest in a person/couple (whatever the case may be), at least have the courtesy to acknowledge them with a written message instead of non-stop "interested" messages, or leading people on only to be a picture collector. We have met some interesting couples on here, but unfortunately we also have met some dishonest people(couples and singles) who just set you up and it goes no where. We drowe 2.5 hours each way to meet one couple who ditched us. We had really clicked, saw pics back and forth, and thought a lot of them. Not anymore.
Some single guys need to be more respectful instead of just sending messages saying wanna fuck?? I know that is one of the goals with the lifestyle but we are people too not just fuck machines. There is more to this lifestyle than just sex. |
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I agree. What does "interested" mean anyway? Interested in what? I have sent some emails to couples who only respond with the infamous "interested". If you really are, then why not write a decent email and tell me about yourself? If you are just being nice, then tell me thanks but..... I will get the message. |
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As a single guy, I've made most of my M&G/meet & greets or play dates. I say most. It's a 120 mile drive to the 2 biggest cities from my house. It has taken 9 hours to get where I was going, 150 miles. I no longer leave the house with out a working phone number. LOL this is so I can cancel.
That said, I've had close to 50% disappointments when I get there. No shows being the highest %. It's the lairs that bother me the most.
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Interested for me, can be two things. First, check my profile again. Second, I wish to know more about them. I never send one unless (I) intend to make the drive.
When I receive one, I always answer.
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Those single guys are givening single guys like me a bad name. John |
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HELLO AND HAPPY FOURTH WISH I WAS CLOSER I WOULD NEVER STAND YOU UP
ROB |
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A very happy 4th of July to you Rob and too all my ST friends and those yet to be! |
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It's not only single guys, it's single girls too. As a bi woman, it's hard enough to find a likeminded individual within a reasonable distance of where I live. We have an unusual situation, with him in Afghanistan and me in college full time, so when we choose to talk to someone, we appreciate them taking the time to respond, even if only to say why they aren't interested. If we came across wrong, there's something about us you don't like, etc, just say so. We're both adults and can take it. Then when you make plans, please show up or call. If you're bicurious and too nervous to meet me yet, it's cool, just say so. |
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I think it's fairly common for both single men and women to get cold feet, but there must be a level of respect. Yes, things do "come up", but I'm sure it can be frustrating for it to routinely happen. Those that get cold feet ruin the credibility of the rest of us single men that are truly interested and committed.
two4nsa: I just spent 8 months in Afghanistan. I hope your husband is doing well...and that goes for you too:) |
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Then I must send a few of them lol. I haven't Used the (interested) with out an email since my first week here. I do check profiles that check mine. I have FRIENDS that do that when ever there is a change added to their profile, IE: Photos, Videos, Blogs, or they joined a new group.
Gary, did you check my profile? I have to look back lmao
B Bopp
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Well, in that case, I was interested, in answering. And did. lmao
B Bopp |
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Yes....just because we look at a profile doesn't mean we are "interested".....it merely means that we looked you over. Perhaps they should remove the auto reply......and allow us to click a button to send the "interested" reply. :) |
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