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There has been a couple of times in my lifetime that some women that I have known have told me that they fantacised about being raped. So My question here is? Men, If you were asked to do this as a fantasy, Could you do it or would it be outside of your comfort zone? Also I would like to hear from the women on this aspect to get some insight into why the thought of this excites them. |
RE: Rape Fantasies.
Make half here, I can give you some insight. First, no I don't think I could do this as a fantasy, not as the aggressor anyway. I don't feel this is a male female thing, it is a submissive dominant thing, being submissive I can tell you that I have this fantasy. It is the excitement of being totally controlled and dominated, feeling helpless to resist that is such a turn on. If anyone has any other questions about it I would be happy to answer. I love talking about subjects like this. :-) |
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Sorry for typo's, still have to access this site on my phone, swype is such a blessing but such a burden |
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You answered that rather well, Sir.
To answer the first part, yes and maybe.
When in my early 20's I was this older ladies, boytoy. I did the Mall Dressing room. Oral, both giving and receiving from within the cloths racks in said mall. The city park, more then once. I ate her girl friend under a table at a restaurant. So the Rape game was just one more thing I had to do for her. I tied her up by placing pillows on her hands, "so she couldn't move" The details don't matter.
Could I do it now? I know I could do it a lot better, more real, but, It is not a game to be played lightly. It would have to be with someone I knew and trusted and they trusted me completely.
B Bopp
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I have done this for someone. When she walked threw the door I threw her down to the floor and ripped her clothes off. She had no way to get out of it and she told me later that she came so hard it took her breath away. Over the years there have been a handful of women tell me they want this including some I have talked to online at other sites. I don't think I am interested in doing it to a stranger I just met online. I see so many things that can go wrong that way. One being getting arrested if the woman turned out to be a flake. |
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That last part is way too true!! I had a husband approach me to do that to/for his wife and I was not to meet the wife first! Was he fucking nuts!! |
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Just think not to long ago a guy got arrested because the husband set up this scenario for his wife....and the wife had no clue.
Sharon :love: |
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I hope he went to Jail and someone there set up the same scenario for him. My thoughts!
B Bopp |
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Absolutely bebopp, you hit on the most important aspect, trust is number one, this is not something you do with strangers and in any of our dealings, alone our with others we have a safe word, if either one of us uses it all action stops immediately. And thank you bebopp, i do pride myself on my ability to utilize the written word |
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Sorry Sweeties, this whole subject disturbs me and we certainly have discussed it a few times here in the past so y'all probably know what I'm about to say.......I understand the need to feel totally vulnerable and agree that it's a turn on, that I get. Rape is not just being in total control over someone and forcing yourself on them sexually, there is much more to it than that.
So in asking how I feel about a rape fantasy, my reply is......For anyone to grab me, hit me, throw me to the floor with a knife at my throat and force themselves on my sexually while constantly beating and demeaning me, filling every hole I have while calling me every slutty name in the book, getting their rocks off and then dragging my nude body to a secluded area, shooting me and leaving me for dead.......NOOOOOOO that does not arouse me!!!!!
Smooches,
Gin
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I ability agree gin, that doesn't sound like much of a turn on to me either not from the dominant or the submissive side. Rape is a very serious and disturbing subject, I really doubt that anyone that has a rape fantasy would ever want to go through the real thing. When asked about rape fantasy I will give the same answers I previously gave, if you ask me about rape I will be eager to tel you that I believe it to be a sick disgusting cowardly crime and that those who would commit it should be forced to suffer it tenfold while they live out the rest of their natural lives in prison |
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Sorry we up set you again. You take this topic to an extreme. I for one, would never hurt someone or force them to do anything they would not want to do, never!
As much as I hate the word Rape, for some, it has a place. As I said, I used pillows to restrain my Victim. There was no intent to scare or hurt, but to ACT it out.
Your friend Steve |
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Maybe it should be called something other than a rape fantasy because rape is violence and not simply being aroused out of feeling vulnerable. I feel it's a "slap in the face" to anyone who has ever fallen prey to such a twisted situation. I'm sure there are others who become aroused by those who look extremely young, would we call that a child molestation fantasy, where do we draw the line?
Smooches,
Gin |
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I love you dearly Steve, you know that but I cannot understand or begin to justify how an action such as rape could be any persons fantasy nor would I ever accept it. But then again maybe it should be called something different. Rape is rape and not pussy footin around, it is violence.
I can see me telling a person who has actually been raped and barely getting through the story without tears, that ummmmmm geeezzzz that wasn't that bad, I dream of it nightly......simply SICK to me.....sorry y'all, I told ya, it disturbs me!!!!
Smooches,
Gin |
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The idea of a "Rape Fantasy" is an oxymoron as it describes a sexual act yet the people whom are enacting this fantasy have consented to sexual interaction.
The definition of rape varies state to state but basically it is sexual contact or penetration without consent, or with use of physical force, coercion, deception, threat, or if a person is mentally or physically impaired(such as drugged or consumption of alochol).
I personally have not had such a fantasy as I have been there, done that as a victim. I know if I want to be tied up....I will be. If I want to be pushed to my limits, I can be as long as me and my partner at the time have a safe word.
I know a few people whom have this fantasy and I tell them as long as you trust whom your with and set rules up ahead of time I hope you have a ball.
Sharon :love:
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I agree a change of title may make it easier for some. I also see how a lot of women & men like this idea. Some need the idea of force to be able to let themselves go completely and feel uninhibited. I don't know of anyone that actually wants to be beaten or have real weapons drawn on them in this senario.
I was a victim myself years ago but nothing like Gin describes and I would be ok with this idea with my partner whom I trust completely but it is not an avenue we have explored to date. |
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Point taken gin, very good point, maybe out should be called something different to differentiate it, in any case I am going to respectfully step out of this discussion because I prefer the forum to be like the lifestyle, I want out to be fun for everyone and I can understand why some would have very negative feelings on this subject |
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It's all good Sweetie Pie, if we all agreed the forums would be boring to say the least! I am very open minded as well as too opinionated at times. If it's on your mind and you are comfortable, post it. I am reasonable enough to accept that some enjoy what I do not and some do not enjoy what I do.....it's all good!!!
Smooches,
Gin |
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Yes, he was arrested and charged. It was an Ad he posted on Craigs trying to recruit another man to rape his wife..and he told the assailant that the wife had no idea. The assailant then broke in put a knife to her throat and raped her while the kids slept.
Sharon :love: |
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I hope he has a long and unpleasant stay where ever he goes.
B Bopp |
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Unfortunately 60% of rapes are not reported and 15 out of 16 Rapist will never spend a day in jail. These statistics are so sad to see, but until advocates for victims speak out more demanding change to be done with these perputrators, they will remain lax and in turn leave society vunerable.
Sharon :love: |
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I agree Sharon and also feel that victims themselves need to have more avenues to learn and speak out themselves. Not near enough is being done concerning this.
Smooches,
Gin |
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Those figures make a strong case for vigilante justice |
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Omg!! Ten posts, we just lost our virginity!! We'll always remember our second time ;-) |
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Over the years I have coaxed fantasy out of women. I was looking for threesomes knowing those women could be turned to swingers therefore possible candidates for LTR. Twice I had a woman say she fantasized about rape. Both times I said I dont think I can help you with that one. That scares the heebee geebee out of me. Also I know I would not be convincing at it. I cant bring my self to be cruel to women. |
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No I don't have 'rape fantasies'! Just the thought of someone violating me makes me sick! We have never come across anyone that has voiced their desires to be raped & hope we don't! Cuz, Clark & I don't do that!!! I think it's wrong! Now I know that Todd wasn't speaking of 'beating or hurting' a woman, but rape is a serious ordeal! So if anyone lays a hand on me(that's unwanted) just be very cautious!!! :corpwench:
I'll fight back!!!
Shirley xoxo |
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I could go along with a play rape, as long as it didn't get out of hand!!! Smacking a person around in order 2 fuck them ain't my cup of tea... Getting a lil rough is good when done right... I want a person 2 want me & then get rough... lol Anyways just the though of them angry eyes looking at ya should put a stop 2 any more of them fantasies... lmao |
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I know :) 'Tis why I've made it my mission in life. Awareness to the public, empowerment to the victims I meet.
sharon :love: |
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Another fact is that 31% of female victims reported that the offender was a stranger. which you can translate to that most victims KNOW their rapist. Scary? yeah. And take into account also that many times it is a family member for examples...a husband/mother/father/uncle/brother/sister
Sharon :love: |
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The thing is RAPE is a harsh word.... but in this context it is not used to evoke non-consensual sex it is being used to express the power and control aspect of sexual activities.
I have been a victim of incest and rape, am an advocate for sexual assault and rape victims for well over 10 years and I am not upset with the term "Rape Fantasy" as I know its not meaning anything its just a description.
Censorship of a word just because people are uncomfortable happens to many times within society. If a word is used properly, then it should be no problem.
Sharon :love: |
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I think that is awesome Sharon that you have the mentality that you do and that you process clearly what has happened to you. You have moved forward and are reaching out to help others. The fact that you are needed to assist those who have been violated simply tells us that there are many out there who would be offended and feel that a "rape fantasy" is nothing more than a mockery of their traumatic experience.
It isn't the fantasy that disturbs me, I know those who desire this are not wanting what actually happens during a rape violation, it's the whole idea of calling it a "rape fantasy" that disturbs me.
The terms rape, murder, child molestation, child porn ect... are not words to be taken out of context, they are what they are and very real and serious violations.
Smooches,
Gin |
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This is Chele..... I was going to stay out of this thread but Mike and I talked about this last night, I honestly believe that when some say "rape" they don't mean the violence of it... As for Mike he wants the being taken "advantage" like he is someones sexual play toy. Hope this made sense
Chele |
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I meant "rape fantasy"... Sorry |
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It totally makes sense to me.
Sharon :love: |
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In todays world....I would have to say no. What if the husband set it up and the wife didn't know anything about it.....talk about a life changer for both!! Now.....if I new the woman very well and she wanted to be "jumped and taken" when she least expected it....maybe. |
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I heard someone once say you cant rape the willing so with that being said how can you have a rape fantasy, when someone is going to enjoy it and be willing to do it. Rape is a vicious act against another person. Alot of ppl like to think that bondage is like rape but it has willing participants. Rape is Rape and no excuse or fantasy can change it. IMHO
Russ
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Just thought id like to leave a quick reply, Its Carla here I actualy get very excited from this fantasy, idk why but i know i have thought of it in detail, it takes me a bit to get my guy to come around to it but i do have my ideas... |
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Rape is rape and out is a heinous crime, but fantasy is fantasy, its not real, you cannot compare one to another. My opinion
Mike |
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A former girlfriend of mine had brought up having a "rape fantacy", I think her fantacy involved the forcefulness of the sex, the whole having the clothing torn off being pushed, pulled, slapped, made to do whatever sexually that was demanded of her. Of course a "safe word" would be a must as to not go where the comfort has been passed. I do think "rape" is a nasty word that evokes visions of very violent things but as a fantacy within a close couple it could be acted out to satisfy both involved. |
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