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Hey im a woman and i'd like to see a category added for bi-friendly which means i like to touch, kiss, play, fondle,could possibly do more if the attraction is there. not completely off the table, but just my general feeling. what do you guys think? am i the only one? Melanie |
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Your good... At least ya don't hide lol Tator... |
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thanks tator! |
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I'm straight but agree that a bi-curious should be an option. The options available now are either straight, bi or gay. There should be an option for those that have fantasized about it. Also I think there is a place in the technical forum where you can raise this same issue and it will be read by the powers to be.
M |
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Not sure if there is a need but I can see your point. Most people just write it in their description.
I would like to see a category of whether you smoke or not which is important to us. |
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The whole gender preference thing is a spectrum from totally straight to totally gay. Very few people will be at the extreme ends. Lots of people are pretty close to one end or the other and some are right in the middle. I've seen "str7" used to mean "mostly str8". But it's a lot like the whole "are you really a swinger?" thing. Why stick labels on things? And if you've got to label it, I think "str9" makes more sense - a little more than straight. And seriously people, I totally pity anyone who's arbitrarily ruled out half the population based on gender. You have no idea what you are missing. |
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Too well said......... |
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Too well said.........
It is amazing how many "str9" are on the down low; I know first hand, I was one.....
We get way too many emails from people with "straight" on their profile, and we turn them down, if they can't be honest on a sex site we don't need them.
Also a lot of offers to give/receive BJ's ONLY from straight guys that are looking to play with a couple.. No thanx! Mrs. Magiriano likes using her strap ons, and she's amazing at fisting M/F's....
We've only met one true bisexual guy so far and it was our best swinging experience so far. We played with another guy that was bi, however his M/F preferences seemed to be 60/40 so we both think he might be in denial about being gay? We loved the experience and can't wait to play with either one of them again |
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I agree with you on the bi-curious or friendly and with Pasley on the smoker/non-smoker. On other sites I seen, they have those options to narrow down the choices. Nice pics you two by the way!
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The word Bi-Comfortable is being used more often on other sites, now a days. It's more of a middle ground. LMAO Here goes! It can mean your Str8, but comfortable around or with Bi sexual's or curious. Touching is OK, just not returned. Oral is OK, just not returned. This leaves room for deny ability. lol
Can mean, your a little Bi or, can be Bi or, ----
B Bopp
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Aaaahhh, Mr Bopper I love you! I love to debate the are you bi or are you str8 issue. Quite honestly...if you are str8 you have no inclinations what-so-ever for the same sex...if you have an ounce of bi in you your not str8, whether or not you've acted upon it or are curious. (All my humble opinion of course).
I just think we have too many labels as it is.... adding bi-curious to the list will just cause confusion and misleading opportunities. |
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Anything not at the extreme end of the spectrum (or totally off it) is bi. |
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I agree with, to many labels.
I truly am comfortable around Bi's. I like their honesty.
Sharon, you make it sound SO easy! And it should be. But till guys are offered the same liberties as the ladies, they will need their labels. It is why I like Bi-comfortable, It's a middle ground that can mean anything. |
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It truly is sad to see how society can look upon one gender and deem things "ok" and "hot" and then on the opposite sex look it at in a different way altogether. |
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So true, even in the Lifestyle. |
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We don't think the lifestyle has anything to do with people being open minded and more accepting. Just because we have similar kinks doesn't make us hippies. So a guy likes to see his wife made a train of, that doesn't mean he'd like to see MM play or that he's secure enough to flirt with another male. They still have their own insecurities, denial issues, etc. Personally, I think that any man that will claim he never had his butt played with, being his GF/wife rimming/sticking her finger in the middle of the hot play, trying on toys, strap on play, or the whole MM deal, it's lying. Ladies, just ask yourselves, not your BF/husband, of course they're 1000% straight, but why some other guy you once dated happened to have a dildo or a butt plug or a toy collection months after he broke up with his last girlfriend, but nothing else of hers? Oh yeah, she left it behind... Really? Now really??? I thought ladies prefer vibrators to dildos. Lulu had 3 of this boyfriends while she was single....The rest probably hid theirs LOL..
As for other forms of racism/prejudism/turn offs......
Lulu still dislikes rednecks/hillbillies and I will never give an East Indian a chance, due to my prejudices caused by everyone of them I ever came in contact. Does that makes me racist? Don't know and don't care, I have great friends of different races that earned my friendship, yet, every single East Indian I met managed somehow to be a scumbag.
We met this awesome married couple at a party, a cowboy and his wife, we just loved their demeanor, their personalities, and they both were easy on the eyes, however, the other Mrs. was turned off by Asians. Her thing, Lulu is turned off by red hair, however I love red head females, and sadly, they usually come in pairs...
Also, body types; there's countless profiles where they stress that they work out and they would only play with "fit people".
As a rule, we don't play with shallow people, and we think they're shallow, so we're probably just as shallow when we don't contact them.
Or smoking, I am a moderate outside only smoker, and, I LOVE IT! I always carry mints, gum, and, I usually bring a toothbrush if there's play potential, however I remain a smoker. So we sometimes get turned down on those grounds.
I get turned off by chain smokers and never smoked in the room I slept in, so to a nonsmoker, I must be like a chain smoker is to me.
We found that swinging as a couple with couples is all together too complicated, so we now swing with single men and ladies or play alone with same gender and we found it a lot more rewarding. |
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Does that mean you changed your mind about fucking us? |
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I'd like to add to this.
Some time back, I thought, that in the Lifestyle, people would be more Tolerant of those with different, preferences. Likes and dislikes.
I was kindly informed today of someones, sexuality, their preferences, and told that there was no need to LOOK at their profile.
Their new to one of my forums. So I clicked their profile photo, "one of those we don't like" to see who posted. It seems I offended someone. Oh Well!
Back to topic, Bi Friendly also works for me. I also think Bi curious is needed, for those that are really curious.
B Bopp
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Then there's vicarious bi curious where you get off on someone else's kinks... |
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I really would like to sit down with you two and chat. Sort of compare notes, kind of thing. Vicarious? An interesting use of words. |
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Not at all, we give couples a fair chance, last time we did, it was a disaster tho.
No, you two will have a fair chance. LOL |
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Bi curious sucks. We've met those too. What we dislike most is denial tho, we get wayyyyy too many emails from "straight" people, and we turn them down, if you can't be honest on a sex site, then why bother? We found that bicurious ladies are not bi at all, but they want to amuse their men.
As a rule of thumb we won't play with people we won't see an all around connection. |
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I think the hole subject is confusing to most of us. What is Bi-curious to some is Bi-friendly to someone else and on and on it goes.
Just because I am Bi doesn't mean I am interested in all other Bi women, the same as I am not interested in all men (and I do like men)
Straight women needn't be afraid that us Bi ladies are out to show them what their missing. Those phobic people generally have a wall around them you can see from a mile away.
I identify as Bi because I think women are beautiful, sexy, great kissers, soft skin, smell so good....I could go on. All that being said I haven't played with very many women for various reasons not needed in this post but still feel I should be honest about my feelings towards women in general.
For us we have no real interest in playing with couples where the woman is straight or bi-friendly (which I feel is a show for their man) Bi-curious is different though, I see it as you are giving yourself permission to come out of the closet but haven't found your first playmate yet. Once you have had your first experience which might only be kissing that should be enough for you to know if you want more or not.
Just my two cents. |
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